It's Friday night. I'm on my way to my first hostessing & show of the evening. I've just finished spending two hours on hair, makeup, tan and costume. I double check the speaker is fully charged and the playlist is ready. I've done a checklist of games and props. Prop bag is looking worn out already - I make a note to buy a new holdall. Oh, must stop at the Co Op and grab some whipped cream! I run through my new script and dance one more time in my head, which I wrote recently. In total, I'll spend three or so hours in preparation.
7pm rolls around and I'm walking into the residence of the birthday boy. The hostessing & show go great, everybody claps and cheers and I'm feeling good. I offer private 1-1 dances at my set rate and a few of the guys take me up on it. I explain the rules and proceed with the first one in a side room.
It's then that I'm greeted with my first hurdle. He challenges my rate and hits me with the classic "fucking hell, I'm in the wrong trade!" Cue eyeroll. Will I do it for £20, he asks? I explain that not only is he paying a premium for a sex service, (not to be confused with FSSW or Full Service Sex Work) but that a lot of time, money and energy goes into A, preparing for a job and B, keeping up my physical appearance. Eventually we get down to business; he sits down and I proceed to dance. As I turn round, I feel his hand crawl up my leg and grab me. He tells me what he's going to do to me and that he's been waiting to get me alone in a room. I sternly remind him of the no touching policy and that I am here as a dancer & visual entertainment. He asks me if I really believe that. He accuses me of teasing him all night, and begs me for "just a bj then, nothing else."
Most customers are wonderful, respectful and kind but here's your friendly neighbourhood reminder that this industry is not "easy money" and our rates reflect that. NEVER grab and grope your dancer and if you would like FSSW - there are separate services for that (where the respect rules still firmly apply, FYI!) - Google it.
This applies to all genders - drunken women can also be very problematic towards buff butlers and as an agency owner I have a ZERO tolerance policy for being sexually inappropriate to my acts.
Be safe, have fun and let's all spread the word to be respectful and non judgemental of our fellow Sex Workers.
Love, Demi x
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